Focussing on the good things in life and the positive aspects of getting older can boost your energy, improve your health and help you live longer, says Professor Becca Levy of Yale School of Public Health. In fact it can have the same kind of benefits as exercising, not smoking and having healthy blood pressure, cholesterol and weight.

A few ways to boost your confidence

Our childhood has an important influence on how confident we are – but difficult events later in life can change the way we feel, too. Our self-esteem can be shaken on a temporary basis or, if the event is traumatic enough, longer term.

The good news is that we all have the ability to become more positive. Confidence is a set of skills and, like everything else in life, the more you practise, the better you get. While some research suggests that elements of confidence are genetic and passed on, there is increasing evidence to the contrary – one study estimated that 50% of how we feel and behave is down to approaches we have learned.

5 practical tips that will help you to feel more positive:

Be good to yourself

Recognise your personal qualities and give yourself credit. Avoid saying things like: ‘that doesn’t count’, ‘other people could do it better’ or ‘anyone could have done it’. Congratulate yourself the way you would your best friend. We are much kinder and fairer to other people than we are to ourselves. The less you value what you do, the more you drag yourself down.

Learn to appreciate life

Get yourself a journal and write down three good things that have happened during the day that you are pleased about, together with what it was about them that made you feel good. For example: ‘I liked the way I spoke to the kids – I feel so much better when I’m able to be firm without losing it.’ It’s often little things in life that build confidence – the more you balance negative thoughts with positive ones, the more confident you become.

Update your image

A makeover might seem superficial, but there is a real emotional pay-off. After all, if you see what you always saw in the mirror, this just reaffirms that nothing has changed. You don’t have to spend a fortune – find out where your local hairdressing and beauty training schools are, as they will be looking for models and charge very little. A personal shopper can also make a big difference – very often other people see the potential that you cannot see in yourself. Suggest that friends and family make a donation towards a stylist fund for your birthday, then splash out!

Put yourself first

t’s all too easy to meet everyone else’s needs and forget your own, but this drains your confidence. If you don’t want to do something and feel guilty saying no, try not to worry about the other person’s reaction. Instead think: ‘What’s the worst that can happen?’ Then take a deep breath in through your nose and let it out slowly through your mouth (which will help you to stay calm). On the out breath, make eye contact and say something like: ‘I appreciate you would like me to help you out, but I’m not able to do it this time’ or ‘I know you might feel disappointed, however, I don’t have the time to do this for you now.’

Don’t be afraid to take risks

If you act confident, you are more likely to become confident. Think of the most confident people you know and ask yourself: ‘What do they say? How do they act? What do they wear?’ Make a note of these things and practise doing them. This technique is called ‘modelling’, and confident people do it without even realising it.

Try using Bional St John’s Wort with Passion Flower

What is it?

A herbal remedy taken in supplement form.

How does it work?

The antidepressant properties of St John’s Wort are already well-documented – but it usually takes up to six weeks for them to fully take effect. However, clinical trials have shown that combining the mood-lifting herb with calming Passion Flower speeds up the process – meaning you should see a big improvement in less than two weeks.BIONAL St. John’s Wort with Passion Flower contains a unique combination of herbal extracts which may help to maintain your touch with the positive things around you.

BIONAL St. John’s Wort with Passion Flower may help you nourish your spirit.

•To stay in touch with your positive self.
•A blend of herbal extracts.

BIONAL St.John’s Wort with Passionflower is also known as Ansolin, Anxolin®

Where can I buy it?

£10.12 for 30 tablets feel free to  click on link below.

Bional St Johns Wort with Passion Flower 30 capsules

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